Today is a new day. I am actually happier today than I was yesterday and that is hard to beat! Ok I am just going to go with it and try to not be paranoid about what’s to come. I am just going to focus on the now and enjoy the moment.
I am happy today because I have been in a situation with my dad. He is 62 years old and we live far from each other and in different states. He has some health issues. He has alopecia, which means he has zero hair. No hair anywhere. Not on his head, his face, no eye brows, eye lashes or any body hair. It is really awful for him because he hates the way that he looks and totally believes that everyone that sees him thinks he is a complete freak. So that has been hard.
Aside from that, his skin is extremely sensitive. He has to be careful in the sun of course but worse yet, it has become very thin and weak. If he touches anything, according to him and to use his descriptive words, “it completely melts and oozes off.” Sounds unbearable and absolutely scary and disgusting right?
Ok so there is his hair and his skin, but not only that, he also doesn’t eat much. He is rail thin and not healthy at all. The funny thing though is that he is a complete health and exercise nut. All organic, love that and I try to feed my family that way too but he doesn’t really eat much. He eats nuts and berries and some potatoes. Just weird combinations and not much at all. He doesn’t really believe in medicine and hates doctors so it has been impossible for him to get any help. Especially since I am so far away.
There is a lot more to the story but I want to get to the happy parts. Oh ya, before I get to happy, I forgot to mention that he lives alone and is a complete recluse. He is a writer and an artist and all he has done is hide out in his tiny 400 square foot room for the last 20 years. He pretty much still loves my mom but they got divorced 30 years ago and he says he has no desire to meet anyone else.
Needless to say, it has been rough. Day in and day out I try to take care of him from 2100 miles away because all he has is me and my sister and neither of us can uproot and move there (lots more to that story too). Last week we got into an argument over the phone, which had become the norm. After that call I decided to reach out to my aunt, my dad’s sister. She lives in the next town over. In fact, he has 2 brothers and a sister right in the same area! I had been reluctant to do so because he was kind of estranged from his family and I didn’t want to go behind his back and do something he didn’t want me to do. Well, I could not be happier that I contacted her. She is so great and helping him and me so much! She is cooking him a week’s worth of delicious meals and bringing it to him every Tuesday. She brought him medicine for his wounds and with her help, we are going to get him to the doctors to see what is going on. She has been in touch with the rest of the siblings and they are all stepping in to nurse my dad back to health. We have been in contact daily and she has been such a blessing!
I was worried my dad wouldn’t go for it but I spoke with him yesterday and he is so happy, and already sounds healthier and stronger. He even said he is realizing he does not want to be alone anymore and that he is ready to do whatever it takes to get healthy and be happy. That is such a huge and amazing step and to hear him say that was music to my ears!